The Secret Nobody Tells You About Adulting

April 26, 2025
Written by Jennifer Ross

Hi hi,

When we were younger, the idea of being an adult had a certain sparkle to it.

Freedom. Independence. A career. A home. Perhaps even trips to far off places we have always dreamed of.

No one really warned us about the quiet, heavy weight that comes with managing... everything.

Bills. Deadlines. Relationships. Groceries. Health insurance. Texting your friends back. Fixing the broken dishwasher. Scheduling your own dentist appointments. And on and on.

If it sometimes feels like "being an adult" is less about living your dreams and more about becoming your own full-time operations manager — that’s because it is.

Here’s the thing:
Feeling overwhelmed by the basic maintenance of life doesn't mean you're failing and underwater.
It means you're carrying a lot — and somewhere along the way, we stopped being taught how to carry it with support, community, or self-compassion.

Adulting was never meant to be effortless.
It was never meant to be a solo performance without rest, help, or nervous system care.

This is why in my work with clients (and my own life), we focus on nervous system regulation first — because no "five-step life hack" can work when your brain is stuck in survival mode.

You don’t need to "hustle harder" or "get your life together."
You probably just need more space to breathe — and a new way to talk to yourself.

RTT helps with that.
It gently uncovers the patterns that tell you you’re "behind" or "not enough" — and helps you rewrite them at the root.

If any of this sounds familiar, I would eagerly love to work on this with you (on Zoom or in-person in Brooklyn).
And as always, I offer free consults if you want to talk through what’s going on first.

Don’t be so hard on yourself out there. Adulting is brave work.

We are all just figuring it out as we go. We are mostly little kids in adult bodies still.

With love,
Jen