Are You Living Where You Are Supposed To Be?
The Secret Nobody Tells You About Adulting
April 26, 2025
Written by Jennifer Ross
Hi hi,
When we were younger, the idea of being an adult had a certain sparkle to it.
Freedom. Independence. A career. A home. Perhaps traveling to places around the world on adventures.
No one really warned us about the quiet weight that comes with managing... everything.
Bills. Deadlines. Relationships. Groceries. Health insurance. Texting your friends back. Fixing the broken dishwasher. Scheduling your own dentist appointments. And on and on.
If it sometimes feels like "being an adult" is less about living your dreams and more about becoming your own full-time operations manager — that’s because it is.
Here’s the thing:
Feeling overwhelmed by the basic maintenance of life doesn't mean you're failing.
It means you're carrying a lot — and somewhere along the way, we stopped being taught how to carry it with support, community, or self-compassion.
Adulting was never meant to be effortless.
And it was never meant to be a solo performance without rest, help, or nervous system care.
This is why in my work with clients (and in my own life), we focus on nervous system regulation first — because no "five-step life hack" can work when your brain is stuck in survival mode.
You don’t need to "hustle harder" or "get your life together."
You probably just need more space to breathe — and a new way to talk to yourself.
RTT helps with that.
It gently uncovers the patterns that tell you you’re "behind" or "not enough" — and helps you rewrite them at the root.
If any of this sounds familiar, I have a few session spots open this month (on Zoom or in-person in Brooklyn).
And as always, I offer free consults if you want to talk through what’s going on.
Take good care out there. Adulting is brave work.
With love,
Jen
Are You Living Where You’re Supposed to Be?
May 20, 2025
Written by Jennifer Ross
There’s a question I’ve been hearing again and again lately — from friends, clients, even strangers:
“I just don’t know if I’m supposed to be living here anymore or where I’m going to land next.”
Sometimes it’s literal — a city, a home, a neighborhood that used to feel right but now feels tight, foreign or strangely unrecognizable.
Other times, it’s deeper:
A quiet curiosity if this version of your life — the routines, the relationships, the pace, the values — is still meant for you. Or has it or you changed…or grown?
These questions can feel disorienting, especially when nothing is technically wrong.
The lease is fine. The job is fine. You live near your family or friends.
And yet — something inside you knows: this isn’t it anymore.
In RTT, this is often where we begin.
Because what you’re really questioning usually isn’t just location —
It’s belonging. Permission. Identity.
Somewhere along the line, we internalized certain rules about when we’re allowed to feel settled:
When we’ve “earned” it. When we’ve performed enough. When everyone else is comfortable.
But your nervous system isn’t a spreadsheet.
It’s wise. It knows when a season is ending.
RTT helps decode that restlessness — to find the subconscious stories underneath the surface questions.
Stories like:
“I’m not allowed to start over.”
“I should be grateful for what I have.”
“What if I feel the same somewhere else?”
If these quiet thoughts have been bubbling up for you lately, you’re not broken or indecisive.
You’re evolving.
And you deserve to feel at home in your life — not just your zip code.
RTT sessions are available virtually.
If you’re standing in the doorway of change and unsure how to move through it, I’d be honored to help.
Free consults are open — just reach out.
You get to reimagine what home means, inside and out.
Trust me, I have worked on this first-hand as an ex-pat most of my adult life.
It can be exciting and a beautiful journey to go there….and investigate these feelings even further.
—
Jennifer Ross
RTT Practitioner | Founder, Jennifer Mary Ross LLC
www.jennifermaryross.com
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The Spring-to-Summer Freakout (and what it’s really about)
The Secret Nobody Tells You About Adulting
April 26, 2025
Written by Jennifer Ross
Hi hi,
When we were younger, the idea of being an adult had a certain sparkle to it.
Freedom. Independence. A career. A home. Perhaps traveling to places around the world on adventures.
No one really warned us about the quiet weight that comes with managing... everything.
Bills. Deadlines. Relationships. Groceries. Health insurance. Texting your friends back. Fixing the broken dishwasher. Scheduling your own dentist appointments. And on and on.
If it sometimes feels like "being an adult" is less about living your dreams and more about becoming your own full-time operations manager — that’s because it is.
Here’s the thing:
Feeling overwhelmed by the basic maintenance of life doesn't mean you're failing.
It means you're carrying a lot — and somewhere along the way, we stopped being taught how to carry it with support, community, or self-compassion.
Adulting was never meant to be effortless.
And it was never meant to be a solo performance without rest, help, or nervous system care.
This is why in my work with clients (and in my own life), we focus on nervous system regulation first — because no "five-step life hack" can work when your brain is stuck in survival mode.
You don’t need to "hustle harder" or "get your life together."
You probably just need more space to breathe — and a new way to talk to yourself.
RTT helps with that.
It gently uncovers the patterns that tell you you’re "behind" or "not enough" — and helps you rewrite them at the root.
If any of this sounds familiar, I have a few session spots open this month (on Zoom or in-person in Brooklyn).
And as always, I offer free consults if you want to talk through what’s going on.
Take good care out there. Adulting is brave work.
With love,
Jen
The Spring-to-Summer Freakout (And What It’s Really About)
May 8, 2025
Written by Jennifer Ross
Every year, like clockwork, I see it — in clients, in friends, and yes, in myself.
The spring-to-summer shift arrives with a strange urgency:
Clean out your closet. Tone up. Lighten up. Show more skin. Book more plans. Look at the Cherry Blossoms. Be seen.
Underneath all of it? A quiet panic.
If you feel it too, you’re not alone — and you’re not wrong for feeling overwhelmed by a season that’s supposed to be light and carefree.
The truth is, summer reveals the subconscious rulebooks we’ve inherited:
You must earn your right to be seen.
Your body should be different by now.
If you’re not glowing with joy, something’s wrong with you.
These beliefs aren’t just annoying — they’re deeply programmed.
They show up in our bodies, our mood, our avoidance, our perfectionism.
In Rapid Transformational Therapy, I help people uncover and unwrite the origin stories behind these internalized pressures — stories we absorbed from media, family, and a culture obsessed with performance.
Because here's the reality:
You are not “late” to your summer body.
You are not failing if you don’t feel social.
You are not broken for craving space instead of plans.
You are responding to a lifetime of invisible messaging — and it takes real work to shift those patterns.
RTT is one of the few tools I know that goes beyond surface-level affirmations and straight to the root:
The subconscious wiring that tells you you’re not ready, not enough, or not allowed unless you’re perfect.
If this time of year stirs up something complicated in you — body shame, comparison, a pressure to be “on” — know this:
You’re not imagining it. And you don’t have to muscle through it alone.
Summer session slots are now open — available virtually via Zoom, or in-person. If you're ready to approach this season differently, I’d be honored to work with you.
Free consults are available — just reach out to get started.
You deserve a summer shaped by your rhythm, not someone else’s rules.
—
Jennifer Ross
RTT Practitioner | Founder, Jennifer Mary Ross LLC
The Secret Nobody Tells You About Adulting
The Secret Nobody Tells You About Adulting
April 26, 2025
Written by Jennifer Ross
Hi hi,
When we were younger, the idea of being an adult had a certain sparkle to it.
Freedom. Independence. A career. A home. Perhaps traveling to places around the world on adventures.
No one really warned us about the quiet weight that comes with managing... everything.
Bills. Deadlines. Relationships. Groceries. Health insurance. Texting your friends back. Fixing the broken dishwasher. Scheduling your own dentist appointments. And on and on.
If it sometimes feels like "being an adult" is less about living your dreams and more about becoming your own full-time operations manager — that’s because it is.
Here’s the thing:
Feeling overwhelmed by the basic maintenance of life doesn't mean you're failing.
It means you're carrying a lot — and somewhere along the way, we stopped being taught how to carry it with support, community, or self-compassion.
Adulting was never meant to be effortless.
And it was never meant to be a solo performance without rest, help, or nervous system care.
This is why in my work with clients (and in my own life), we focus on nervous system regulation first — because no "five-step life hack" can work when your brain is stuck in survival mode.
You don’t need to "hustle harder" or "get your life together."
You probably just need more space to breathe — and a new way to talk to yourself.
RTT helps with that.
It gently uncovers the patterns that tell you you’re "behind" or "not enough" — and helps you rewrite them at the root.
If any of this sounds familiar, I have a few session spots open this month (on Zoom or in-person in Brooklyn).
And as always, I offer free consults if you want to talk through what’s going on.
Take good care out there. Adulting is brave work.
With love,
Jen
April 26, 2025
Written by Jennifer Ross
Hi hi,
When we were younger, the idea of being an adult had a certain sparkle to it.
Freedom. Independence. A career. A home. Perhaps even trips to far off places we have always dreamed of.
No one really warned us about the quiet, heavy weight that comes with managing... everything.
Bills. Deadlines. Relationships. Groceries. Health insurance. Texting your friends back. Fixing the broken dishwasher. Scheduling your own dentist appointments. And on and on.
If it sometimes feels like "being an adult" is less about living your dreams and more about becoming your own full-time operations manager — that’s because it is.
Here’s the thing:
Feeling overwhelmed by the basic maintenance of life doesn't mean you're failing and underwater.
It means you're carrying a lot — and somewhere along the way, we stopped being taught how to carry it with support, community, or self-compassion.
Adulting was never meant to be effortless.
It was never meant to be a solo performance without rest, help, or nervous system care.
This is why in my work with clients (and my own life), we focus on nervous system regulation first — because no "five-step life hack" can work when your brain is stuck in survival mode.
You don’t need to "hustle harder" or "get your life together."
You probably just need more space to breathe — and a new way to talk to yourself.
RTT helps with that.
It gently uncovers the patterns that tell you you’re "behind" or "not enough" — and helps you rewrite them at the root.
If any of this sounds familiar, I would eagerly love to work on this with you (on Zoom or in-person in Brooklyn).
And as always, I offer free consults if you want to talk through what’s going on first.
Don’t be so hard on yourself out there. Adulting is brave work.
We are all just figuring it out as we go. We are mostly little kids in adult bodies still.
With love,
Jen